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Many people have gotten or plan on getting tattoos during their lifetime. However, if you see a tattoo that looks something like this one, there’s quite a devastating reason behind it and should serve as a warning before you talk to someone sporting the ink.
Joan Bremer recently posted a photo of her new tattoo on . Unfortunately, she wasn’t sharing it out of excitement, but in memory of something that was special to her – which happens to be something many people struggle with and few people talk about — a miscarriage.
It all began when Joan was seven weeks pregnant and she began bleeding and cramping. After she was seen by her doctor, her worst fears were confirmed — she was losing her baby, a loss too many women and their partners experience without anyone ever knowing their struggle.
“It took about three days to recover, and during that time I thought of getting a tattoo to mark this life experience,” Bremer told . “For me, all the tattoos I have signify something, and even though this was a painful time, I still wanted to be able to remember it in some way.”
Bremer knew she wanted to find the perfect tattoo for her lost baby and immediately began searching for “the one” online. After finding what she felt was a perfect fit, a single line connecting two hearts, the California woman had the tattoo placed on her body only a few days after her devastating miscarriage.
“If we are able to carry a baby to term and have a healthy child, I will add a rainbow baby to this design since ‘rainbow babies’ are babies that are conceived after a loss, just like how something beautiful can come after a storm,” said Bremer. “If I end up having a second miscarriage, I will most likely add another heart to this design.”
When Bremer placed her memorial tattoo of her miscarriage on , she had no idea her post would go viral. In just two days, the post has been viewed over 35,000 times and countless women have shared their experiences with pregnancy loss.
“Losing a baby, even if it’s early in pregnancy, is just so difficult,” said Bremer. “For me, it was healing to be able to speak about it. I know there is a certain silence about miscarriages and pregnancy losses, but I am not ashamed that this happened to me. That was one of my motivations for getting the tattoo in the first place — I really think it’s healing to be able to talk about it.”
Unfortunately, the occurrence is incredibly common and something very few people talk about. The experience is far too painful, so couples often go through the struggle alone. However, with this post going up on the Internet, it is my hope that many women will be able to raise awareness for miscarriages by sharing their experiences and how they dealt with it — including their tattoos.
It’s a loss that no mother should ever have to feel, but it happens to so many of us. As a mother who lost her first child, I know and understand what it feels like and how much it truly changes you. If anything, I hope this story will help more women who are struggling with the loss of their unborn children to know that they aren’t alone.
Credits: Mad World News