When She Adopted 3 Black Babies, Her Husband Had The BEST Reaction.
What makes a family? Is it a mommy, a daddy, and two kids? Is it two mommies, two daddies or biological children who carry the same genes as their parents? The definition of a family has evolved over the last couple of years.
It is no longer about being the same culture, sex, and race that bonds people together. You don’t have to carry a child in your womb to know you are their mommy and daddy. It is not necessary for your child to have your eye colour, hair texture for you to feel they are yours to love and care for.
When Aaron Halbert and his wife Rachel began dating 12 years ago they knew they wanted to adopt when the time was right. It was their deep religious belief that made them want to give children an opportunity to be raised in a loving home. They just chose a different route to do it.
Aaron grew up in Honduras where his parents were evangelical missionaries in the Central American country.
"I was the blue-eyed, cotton-topped white kid who stuck out like a sore thumb, but all the while felt deeply connected to the people there, even though we looked very different," explains Aaron.
Rachel grew up in Mississippi without knowing much about racial diversity.
After a few trips to Haiti, she began to see the struggles and prejudices people of different colour and race encounter daily.
The couple felt that if they were to have a biological child, it would happen without them putting much effort into it.
They visited an adoption agency in Mississippi where they told the staff they were, "willing to accept any child except a fully Caucasian child. We did this with the deeply held conviction that if the Lord wanted us to have a fully Caucasian child my wife would conceive naturally."
Aaron adopted a boy and a girl and could not be happier, despite the disapproving looks from strangers.
"We see protection of children not as charity, nor as part of a political agenda, but as something near to the heart of God," explains Aaron about their adoption decision. "Because every human life bears his image, all life –no matter how young or old, no matter the stages of development — has inherent dignity and value."
Aaron and Rachel are not oblivious to racial differences.
"It’s not that we think race doesn’t exist, or that we don’t see it. In fact, it’s the opposite – we see it, and we embrace it," says Aaron.
The couple feel strong about the protection of human life which is why they sought the help of the National Embryo Donation Center, a Christian embryo bank when they made the choice to expand their family.
The parents wanted the new babies to have a connection to their brother and sister. They asked the team at NEDC to be matched with African American embryos. Two embryos were implanted, hoping the transplant was successful.
While working full-time as missionaries in Honduras, they encountered some confusion trying to explain two embryos were implanted. Doctors finally explained to the pair one of the embryos had split. They were expecting triplets!
"In our minds, we are just living out our dream. A dream that may not look like the average family, but one that we are thankful could come true in light of our country’s history," says the proud papa.
Aaron admits their family may not look the way they imagined it when they were dating.
Yet, they wouldn't change anything about it one bit.
Aaron loves the joy of taking his son for a haircut where his African American friends go or his wife asking her friends for tips to care for their biracial daughter's hair.
He sees these things as a way to connect with others and make life richer and fuller. "It forces you to think in a new way about the way you think, speak, act and live," says Aaron.
His family is not a rainbow tribe or the United Nations, it's more than that.
"I can remember a friend going through the adoption process telling me he had always wanted his family to look like a little United Nations. As I look at my growing family, I prefer to take it a step further, daring to hope that our family picture is a little hint of Heaven," says Aaron of his large family.
Courtesy of LifeBuzz